Wife not into panty fetish/wearing....any suggestions?

BuckMaster1000 · Panty "BRONZE" Joined: Jan 30, 2007 Posts: 9

I've had this fetish for years...ever since I was an early teen and most girls I was with didn't even realize it. My first long term g/f I think knew about it and exploited it..we had some great times together.
The nylon/lycra blend is my fav, satin is okay too, microfibers are alright, cotton doesn't even make the list.
My problem is I have a collection and like to wear as much as possible, I've tried buying matching pairs his/hers for Valentines, Anniversaries and subtle things like that, but it hasn't worked, she has said boys in girls underwear just isn't right.
I've hunted around the internet and department stores trying to find something that is comparable in mens fashion or something for ladies that I could pass off as mens. I was able to by some Body By Victoria Microfiber panties and pass them off as mens, my wife actually put them in my drawer for me. I removed the tags and labels before I brought them home, and I think she is suspicios because she recently has picked up the same style from VS (I might be busted) but she hasn't mentioned anything...yet! All of the BBV that I bought are masculine colors, black, green, purple, heavy colors.
I've given up on finding anything that I can buy that is even close to a panty for men, they are either ugly, too big, wrong cut, or stupid expensive....or way to feminine.
I'm not a CD or X-dresser, just a manly man with a panty fetish, I like wearing them and I love women in them. I like they way the feel and look on women and myself.

Does anyone have any hints or suggestions on how to get here to understand?
Or wear I can purchase some panties for men that aren't quite so feminine?

gary46

In response to your asking for suggestions, may I indulge upon you into looking at the Jockey line of panties. The soft as cotton line is great. Not too fem but do have the little Jockey logo near left hip. Very nice panties and the wife and I call them unisex undies. I prefer the bikini's but there are others available. Hipsters, Hi-cut's, etc. There is a limited number of colors. Black, White, Pinkish, and Purple. At least thats the colors I've seen most recently in the Jockey line. There are also Tactel Microfiber panties that I like and wear. I am really into the Jockey line of panties and wear them everyday as if they were men's. The wife liked me in womens panties for years, but she likes these even more. She kinda gave me the Idea of "unisex undies". Keep me/ us informed! By the way, KOHLS is the store I shop for Jockey panties. Don't ever see them anywhere else here in southwestern PA. Hope this helps. Go shopping!

solrac · Panty "BRONZE" Joined: Sep 19, 2006 Posts: 4

e-bay. if you make nylon pantys as your favorite searches you get e-mails with new listings and on the bottom there is usually ads with stores that sell custom and factory made nylon underwear for him or her.there is a lot of listing for nylon panties there is vintage, 1977-80s, and new. some of the vintage stuff is still new with tag.a good seller is jakubjan in the U.K. very nice stuff my wife loves it.

moulder · Panty "BRONZE" Joined: Jan 25, 2007 Posts: 4

Well you could try the fact that something like one in three men like wearing womens knickers. It worked for me to some degree. Good luck

paul_smith01

my wife isn't really into it BUT she accepts it. As long as i dont dress up on front of her every day!
She lets me dress up every other weekend in front of her but lets me wear thongs and panties under my clothes.
If she loves you, you should be able to compromise and reason with each other.

highcut7

i am slowly trying to get her to let me wear.she will use hers to jack me off and let me cum on them. i found at some target stores they had Jake Taylor underwear for men that were very close to panties except they do not have a cotton crotch. she lets me wear these without a problem .i think it is a step in the right direction

tang

I think you're going the right way by trying to compromise with her. She must not be totally grossed out by the idea hearing your side of it, so that is good for you. I can't remember that far back, but I think that's kinda how things started with my wife....not exactly, but she let me know that she was accepting of it by doing little things for me in the beginning. Over the years, it gets better and easier for me to open up about my fetish, but you'll have to ask her about her side of it..
Good luck to you, and keep us updated!

pconus · Panty "BRONZE" Joined: Mar 05, 2007 Posts: 2 Location: AL

I agree, it takes time. My panty play with her started with her stroking me with the panties she just took off. She quickly understood this as sensual foreplay. I also began to make shure she kept her panties on when she came to bed for foreplay with me give her attention thru her panties. Wearing came along as anticipation of great sex, ie foreplay.

BuckMaster1000 · Panty "BRONZE" Joined: Jan 30, 2007 Posts: 9

I will keep trying....will put more emphasis on teasing/pleasing with hints and foreplay.
Almost got busted last night...we decided to take a bath, so filled the tub and did some other things, came back up and wifey was in bed (too tired to take a bath). So I figured I will by myself, the water is already hot, well I stripped down to T-shirt and panties (wife doesn't know I'm wearing) and proceed to get ready for tub, towels, wash clothe, soap, bath mat, etc. etc., strip down and am about to jump in and the wifey is hiding around the corner laughing because I didn't see her until just then. I just about jumped out of my skin afraid she would ask about the panties...I don't think she even noticed..it is rather dark in the b-room and I didn't turn on any lights only lights from hall bedroom...just enought light to see what you are doing. She was only 5ft from me when I stripped down and didn't notice, if she did notice she probably thought they were a pair of my man-panties. But could have been easily busted if she had really paid any attention, I don't have any man-panties that color (turqoise blue) and these were very shiney Second-Secret-Satin from Victorias. It was all I could do to hide my growth under the water while thinking about it. I was so close to her in my panties and she didn't even say anything, the excitement was almost unbearable to think about.

Juicy_Jessica

I can understand totally as women's panties are soooo much more comfortable than mens. Its a shame your partner is not into it. But just keep enjoting yourself anyway don't worry about her negative attitude!

married25 · Panty "SILVER" Joined: Nov 29, 2007 Posts: 10 Location: NC

I have to say...in my opinion, and based on my personal experience, the love two people share for one another doesn't play a part in her acceptance in your panty fetish. My wife & I are very much in love, and she has known about my infatuation with panties and lingerie for as long as we've been married (25 years), and she still doesn't approve, nor does she want to ba a part of it.
Some women you just can't change. Trust me, I've tried every angle, but always came out with the same results...I have to enjoy this part of my life all alone. Ask her to open up to you and share a secret fantasy with you, then share yours with her. She might suprise you.