telling loved ones

cdmarc · Panty "BRONZE" Joined: Feb 13, 2007 Posts: 2

is anybody else in the possition of keeping there lil fetish a secret? everyone seems to have there wifes or girlfriends buying panties for them. i want panties brought for me, just not sure the miss's will take it to good when i tell her i love wearing womens underwear. has anyone else been through this and if so what was the outcome in general? good or bad? plaese help me make my mind up to tell her or not?

johnb · Posted: Thu Apr 19, 2007 7:32 pm Post subject: Re: telling loved ones

Could you introduce it as a fun thing, to see how your wife reacts? Cuddle up to her with knickers on and see what happens? Or watch her take hers off then put them on yourself? My wife quite enjoys an occasional venture into this fet of mine. She knows I have a few pairs in a drawer, she knows I wear them from time to time. No problem. Go ahead in fun. You might get a surprise. If she responds well, share your turn-ons with her. She might enjoy making them happen for you. Good luck!

johnb · Posted: Thu Apr 19, 2007 7:37 pm Post subject: Re: telling loved ones

I meant to add that introducing her to your fet could be opportune when you have both had a glass or two of wine and are in mischievous mood. Tell her you have the urge to sniff her knickers and insist that she remove them and give them to you. Do a 'wife taste' in lieu of a wine taste and comment on her scent in the manner of a wine taste ('good nose' etc). Then, 'on impulse', take your gear off and put the panties on, parading around with your glass of wine and 'flaunting' yourself. Invite her to dance with a man clad only in her panties... and on it goes.

Again, good luck! It is so much easier when your fet is in the open.

Bikinifiend · Panty "SILVER" Joined: Apr 06, 2007 Posts: 10

Having the fetish out in the open is SO worth the "risk"....

Honestly, I think that most people don't really have a problem with it, or at worst, consider it a harmless "quirk". I brought the subject up to a girl I was dating, and she not only didn't have a problem with it, she expressed a great deal of interest...she even mentioned taking me shopping for panties sometime.

I have also, (not while sober) mentioned my particular fetish to a very close male friend of mine, and he accepted it entirely. He even was comfortable with me wearing them in front of him for the remainder of the evening. (Both of us, for the record, are entirely heterosexual, and very comfortable with our sexuality.)

Really, I think it all comes down to the fact that real friends will accept you no matter what, and this sort of thing is really pretty harmless when you get right down to it. If someone rejects your fetish, or rejects you because of it, it almost assuredly wasn't worth expending your effort on them in the first place.

Just my thoughts....hope it helps.

FloralPanties · Posted: Sun Apr 29, 2007 10:40 am Post subject: Re: telling loved ones

My best friend knows, he is not into it & thinks its alittle weird, but is ok with it. My mom knows & my last gf knew too. She use to blow me in my panties..... I wore only panties around her apartment all the time. :P

PETA1955 · Posted: Sun Apr 29, 2007 1:33 pm Post subject: Re: telling loved ones

[i]Let's see, I have told my sister(46), her daughter(30), my brother and his partner, 3 women at work, several women over the internet, my psychologist, quite a few nurses and doctors, two neighbor women, one very special lady that I want to become romanticly invovled with, and she had no problem with the fact that I wear panties and nighties!!! I have also told many women at the stores that I shop at. All of the ladies that wodk at the stores are aware that I shop for panties and nighties for myself, and talk to me just as they would any other customer. Sometimes they seem to forget that I am a man, and will talk about new panties that thney have in stock that they think I would like and would look nice on me, and the other women around the store get curious as to why I wear panties, etc, so I answer their questions as honestly as I can. I have even gotten one woman to buy matching panties for herself and her husband, and then come back for more, so apparently he went along with ther request to wear panties, and she has even started getting them matching nighties too. I do not go out of my way to let people know that i wear panties, but if asked I will usually tell the truth. I am not doing anything wrong or illegal, and I am not hurting anyone with this little fetish of mine, and at the same time I am relieving quite a lot of stress every day by wearing what I like under my male outer clothing, and at night when at home alone. I feel that if a person can not accept what I wear as to who I am, then they really do not want to know me or accept me on any level.[/i]

EmpireState · Panty "SILVER" Joined: Sep 08, 2006 Posts: 12 Location: NY

Don't tell just anyone because it will haunt you. People can be vicious so watch who you tell. If you are married it is one thing but the average girl I would really watch what you do.

tang · Posted: Mon Apr 30, 2007 11:09 am Post subject: Re: telling loved ones

This is Tang's wife. I was going to log in under my name to respond to this, but I am too lazy and I'm sure the hubby won't mind.

I think that men should definitely tell their wives and girlfriends. If your relationship is stable enough, it won't be a problem. I would suggest NOT telling her by just surprising her one day or letting her find out on her own. I will admit that I was very hurt and pissed when I found out about Tang's fetish, but that was because I kept finding other people's underwear hidden around the house. He wasn't ready to admit they were his, so instead I got told that he didn't know how they got there. I thought he was cheating on me, so that approach didn't go over well. It took a while to get used to the idea that he liked finding panties and bringing them home, but now I am ok with it. (If you like finding panties or stealing them, I would suggest waiting until you know she is comfortable with you in her panties or ones that were bought before bringing this up.)

I would suggest telling your partner by asking to wear hers. Make it more about wanting to be close to her by wearing them. Bring it up in a playful way to test her openness to the idea. That way, if she has a negative reaction to it, you can blow it off by saying it was a joke. More than likely, she will think of it as a fun thing to try. Eventually you can have her help pick out pairs for you at the store and maybe get matching panties.

Good luck!
Mrs. Tang

meme · Panty "SILVER" Joined: Apr 15, 2007 Posts: 12

I've tried to tell a few people. People i've really wanted to be close to and have a serious relationship with. the few that i've tried to tell i never sprung it on them in the spur of the moment, i tried to explain what it is about the panties i loved and they blew me off fast (not in the sexual way either!) they wanted nothing more to do with me and said that made me gay. I'm not gay not have i ever been with a man and it's not enter my mind wanting to be with a man i'm very straight! I was really hurt over it (yes i said hurt a man has feelings to), now the girl i'm dating i've wanted to tell her so many times, we would be watching movies when i'd see a guy in the movie smelling a pair of panties or holding a pair of panties, i make a comment to try get a feeling about how she felt about a man and panties one time in particular we were sitting watching a movie and a guy was sniffing panties i made the comment i wonder how his wife would act or feel if she walked in at that time an saw him, I got the reponse back from her that if she was the wife she would put him out of the house she wouldnt live with a man that was bisexual i went on trying to explain that wouldn't make him bisexual that alot of men loves panties and loves wearing their wife or girlfriends panties, i never could make her understand. So now i'm dating a girl that i have to keep it hid from again :( I hope that i one day find the girl for me and will be openmided an accept me for me an who i am that won't think of me as being gay for loving panties, wanting to cum in hers, for her to jack me off with her panties and will let me wear her panties and not put me down for wanting to. I know shes out there somewheres i'll find her one day! and when i find her i'll hang on to her! hope you all didn't mind me typing on and on but i'm finding it hard to find people to accept me loving panties and being a straight guy.

EmpireState · Panty "SILVER" Joined: Sep 08, 2006 Posts: 12 Location: NY

I still stand by what I say because if you live in a small city or town it could come back on you. All I am saying is make sure it is someone you can be stable with and you trust. I told an ex-fiance and she did not get into it at all so I never really brought it up anymore.